Accompaniment through
Grief, Loss, and Deathwork

 
 
 
 
 

To Choose Death is to allow the experience of Transition to Reveal more of what you truly are and have always been, Going Beyond the edge of what you assumed you were.

 
 
 
 

This work is the experience of dying before Death, so that you can truly live the rest of your Life openly & richly, with whatever time is given to you

 
 
 

Death happens to all of us, but this does not mean we Choose it. To Choose Death is to open to it as an Essential movement of Life, one that takes the forms of diminishment, decline, coming apart, loss, grief, and mortal transformation.

‘Death’ here refers to physical death, but also includes death anxiety, existential agitation, loss of all kinds, and ego/identity deconstruction.

Choose Death creates a safe yet courageous container in which to gently open to this potent experience in its many forms, developing the trust & capacity to ‘show up’ within the Essential Aliveness at the center of Death.

 
 
 

“To go in the dark with a light is to know the light. To know the dark, go dark. Go without sight, and find that the dark, too, blooms and sings, and is traveled by dark feet and dark wings“

WENDELL BERRY

 

Choose DEaTH is for those

 
 
 
 

  • Experiencing death fear/anxiety or existential dread

  • Going through a terminal illness or death experience of a loved one and needing support & guidance

  • Seeking to cultivate a more honest & empowering relationship with the reality of death

  • Needing to grieve or ‘unlock’ an unresolved past experience of loss or death

  • Seeking to prepare for & find peace with their eventual dying experience

 

Justin recently supported me through my mother's unexpected passing in such a profound way. He helped show me how nervous-system driven and detached from my heart I was. I can't express how grateful I am to have had his support, to have a safe space to truly grieve and to recognize the blessings that life gives, even in death. This also gave me the strength to support my father and family through a really, really hard time.

Justin possesses an incredible wealth of knowledge, from a wide range of spiritual teachings and practices, human biology and health, mindfulness practices, plus most importantly a deep understanding of the nature of the human heart. He can meet me where I'm at, geeking out on science fiction and superhero movies to ease into or out of "the work". He can also pivot on a dime to go deep into our feelings and the vitality of our humanity. He brings a deep sense of empathy and respect to me as a client.

As a person, I'm more grounded and available for my friends and family than I've ever been, and I now enjoy slowing down to soak in my feelings in whatever form they show up. He's shown me how to feel into my heart, to do the hard work of feeling the miracles of grief, pain, joy and love that life offers. If this is the type of transformative work you're seeking, I whole-heartedly recommend Justin to help guide you through the process.

A.R.
Berkeley, CA.

 
 
 

FaQs

  • For a deep dive into the Choose Heart approach, see our Method page

  • For new clients, I generally request an initial 12 sessions over the first 5 months. These sessions are broken down into 2 phases.

    Phase 1 is 6 sessions over first 6-8 weeks–meeting around once a week.

    Phase 2 is 6 sessions over the next 3 months–usually meeting every other week.

  • Well, if you are already on this website and asking this question, chances are you could stand to benefit in some way from taking a next step.

    With that said, there is no automatic way to determine exactly what kind of support you would most benefit from.

    This is why I always recommend starting with the consultation session, offered at no cost and with no obligation to continue.

  • The rate for session time is $200/hour.

    Any additional service time, such as phone calls beyond 10 minutes, is calculated on the basic $200/hour rate.

    Choose Heart maintains a temporary Financial Assistance option for those in significant financial hardship.

  • Choose Heart does not participate in any HMO/managed care insurance panels.

    However, if you use a PPO insurance plan, EAP, or HSA, we can provide you with monthly invoices for you to submit to your insurance provider for partial or full reimbursement.

    FSA and HSA accounts can also be accepted through our Square payment portal.

    Finally, we maintain a temporary Financial Assistance option for those in significant financial hardship.